The traditional marketing funnel is this neat, linear path of awareness → consideration → decision → purchase. But, something about it feels off. It doesn’t reflect how modern buyers actually behave.

We’ve written about this before in the post Are Marketing Funnels Dead?

In the traditional funnel, customers move predictably from one stage to the next, guided by marketing touchpoints and nurturing campaigns. It’s clean, measurable, and comforting in theory. But in practice? It’s a simplification of a much more complex, nonlinear human journey.

Personally, I like the idea of the “Waiting Room Effect.”

The “Waiting Room Effect” recognizes that buyers often linger.

The Problem With the Funnel

The funnel assumes people make decisions in order. But in reality, buyers jump in and out, circle back, pause, and sometimes disappear entirely, not because they’re uninterested, but because they’re not ready yet.

When there is endless content and constant exposure, people often sit in your brand’s ecosystem for months (even years) before taking action. They’re not cold leads. They’re just in what I call the waiting room, which is an in-between state where they’re interested but not urgent.

The “Waiting Room Effect” recognizes that buyers often linger.

They consume your content, follow you on social media, and see your product pop up in conversations, but they’re not in-market right now. They’re quietly self-educating, comparing, building emotional connection, and waiting for a trigger, whether that’s timing, budget, or life stage, before they are finally ready to make a move.

I see this in myself. Take Porsche, for example. I’m not a buyer today, but I’m definitely in the waiting room. I know the brand, I’ve watched the videos, I follow their design updates. I admire what they stand for. I’m building affinity and aspiration, slowly and subconsciously.

Porsche doesn’t need to “nurture” me with a drip campaign — they just need to stay present, consistent, and emotionally resonant so that when I’m ready, they’re already my default choice.

So what does this mean for marketers

The Waiting Room Effect challenges how we think about growth. It means we can’t just optimize for short-term conversions, we need to invest in long-term brand trust and memory.

Marketers should:

  • Show up consistently across channels, even when no one’s buying.
  • Create content that builds desire, not just urgency.
  • Understand that unseen engagement (lurking, following, bookmarking) still compounds over time.
  • Measure share of mind, not just pipeline velocity.

When people finally leave the waiting room, they buy what they’ve grown to believe in.

The problem isn’t that the funnel is “wrong”, it’s that it’s incomplete. It captures visible movement but misses the invisible momentum that happens before it.

Most buyers spend most of their journey anonymous, brand affinity is the new lead nurturing. You don’t control when they leave the waiting room, you only control what they experience while they’re in it.

Great Brands Win Long Before the Sale

The best brands today don’t just guide buyers down a funnel, they build waiting rooms people actually want to stay in. They focus on earning trust, not just traffic. They create pull, not push. They understand that attention and affinity compound quietly over time, long before a transaction ever takes place.

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